Am I being selfish?

I was taught from a very young age that it is wrong to be selfish. Selfish people are bad people – they only care about themselves, disregard others’ needs and are spoilt. Simply put – be whatever you want to be, but do not be selfish.

This fear of being (or being seen as) selfish has been growing untamed over the past 30 years and only recently I realised how much it has affected me and my relationships with others. I have accepted bad friendships out of fear that demanding more from my friends would make me seem selfish. I have accepted poor treatment at work because demanding fair pay and fair workload would make me seem selfish. I have put people’s needs before mine, even when these people have been utterly unfair, abusive and selfish themselves. All out of fear of being selfish. All out of fear or feeling like a bad person in situations where any sane observer would have told me I was not in the wrong.

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Coursera – my experience and thoughts

I was going to do a post on things to do when you are bored and include completing a Coursera course as one of them but actually the topic really deserves an entry of its own.

If you are unfamiliar with Coursera (or EDx which is also a very similar concept), the website hosts hundreds of courses on a wide range of topics – from data science to political science to personal development courses. The courses are sourced from Universities around the world and usually consist of video content, recommended readings and assignments.

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